As a recovering "good girl" (part of me wants to ask if that's okay to even say, so obviously I still have work to do lol) this was so appreciated. This article made me feel seen and not alone. Much appreciated!
I am glad that I read this. I have mental illness based on lots of things, but never allowing me to be me was one. I totally get how you filled your role and felt it protected you. I find the people who I know who are very healthy set stern bounaries and are quick to criticize people stopping them from existing as a whole and secure person. I gave myself permission a while back to be the bad guy if that was neccessary. Anyone who is imposing on you knows what they are doing and is being unfair. Does that make sense? I also started to get honest with wants, which are really needs in my opinion, and one of those is to be heard. I seek validation because I never got any.
What amazing writer you are and I can relate. Also, I’m a projector… I see you 😃
Oh this comment made my whole day 🥰 thank you, Lori!
Awwww, love it when that happens. Cheers to a magical week my friend!!
As a recovering "good girl" (part of me wants to ask if that's okay to even say, so obviously I still have work to do lol) this was so appreciated. This article made me feel seen and not alone. Much appreciated!
I am glad that I read this. I have mental illness based on lots of things, but never allowing me to be me was one. I totally get how you filled your role and felt it protected you. I find the people who I know who are very healthy set stern bounaries and are quick to criticize people stopping them from existing as a whole and secure person. I gave myself permission a while back to be the bad guy if that was neccessary. Anyone who is imposing on you knows what they are doing and is being unfair. Does that make sense? I also started to get honest with wants, which are really needs in my opinion, and one of those is to be heard. I seek validation because I never got any.
Amazing. All of this rings so true. Felt like I was reading about myself. Thanks for sharing this!
A wonderful article. There are points in here that really resonates with me. I love the comment to stop auditioning our wants.
Thank you so much, Denise! I'm totally with you—that line stuck out to me from the very first time I heard it in the episode.
A comforting read.... for someone still untangling from the 'good' tether. Looking forward to more of your work!
I so appreciate you reading and commenting, Lindsay. Thank you! 💛
I’m currently in that liminal space; really enjoyed this piece.
Oof, sending big tenderness your way. That can be such a trying place to be 💛
Thank you! It is, but hopefully things will be better on the other side.
I know that liminal space well. Really enjoyed this!
I so appreciate hearing that, thank you Amanda!